Are you are looking for a lost love online, an old girlfriend or boyfriend? Are you trying to find someone’s email address who you used to know? An old sweetheart?
What happens if you find them? Have you thought about how stressful an online relationship is? Many people equate Internet relationships as living in a “fantasy world” because you are not really showing that person your real self.
You probably think that’s crazy, if you are emailing back and forth you are showing more of yourself than you would in real life.
What happens is you end up showing through email just what you want to reveal and no more than that. The other person will not get to know your true self until you spend some real-world time together doing everyday things that normal couples do. Yes, some online relationships can work, sure, but they do require a lot of effort.
So while you are trying to find someone’s email address so that you can get in touch with them and possibly begin corresponding, keep in mind that if you do end up finding them through a search engine or through an online member directory (these can be very helpful in your search), consider keeping things light and platonic at least until you can find a way to get together. If you live close, that shouldn’t be a problem. However, if this is going to be a long-distance thing, these are very hard to make work.
As a word of encouragement, I do know of a couple of success stories where several people I know have corresponded via email over a number of months and then when they finally did meet they were able to maintain a relationship. I think what helped them though is they did not get too serious until they met in person.
So if you are looking to find someone’s email address and begin an online relationship, remember that it is very easy to only show your “good” side (that’s human nature), so try to be very honest and you may have a good chance of success.