The online dating community is no different than any other fraternity or social group. Before you enter this world it is expected that you do your homework and know proper online etiquette and behavior. Here we will breakdown some suggested etiquette to adhere to when creating your online dating profile or communicating with other members.
1. Honesty Is The Best Policy
One of the troubling aspects of the Internet is the fact that people are hiding behind a keyboard with the ability to become anyone they want to be. Some people join internet dating sites with the idea that this is just a way to kill time, have fun and possibly meet someone along the way. They may tell themselves that they have no intention of finding their soulmate online so, for a number of reasons, they feel compelled to tell little white lies within their online dating profile. Perhaps they are self-conscious about their age and body type or they may be insecure about their income, profession or true hobbies/interests. They may post a photo from five years ago even though their appearance has changed drastically. Instead of listing their occupation as an administrative clerk at an ad agency, they become the VP to the CEO of that said ad agency. They may conveniently exclude from their hobbies their nightly ritual of playing Dungeons & Dragons with their friends from high school. The person looking for some casual, no strings, fun and excitement will post that they are looking for a serious committed relationship.
Just be honest. There is really nothing to lose. People can just skip by your profile if they are not into who you are, what you look like and what you are seeking. If people don’t like who you are and what you’re about, it’s much easier for them to just skip by your profile, rather than you being in a position of working around your lies upon meeting face-to-face, especially if you meet someone you are genuinely interested in. Chances are they will not be very forgiving of your dishonesty. Besides, don’t you want the person responding to your profile to be into the “true you”?
2. Personalize Your Messages
People are more likely to respond to your message of interest if it is obvious that you have personalized it. It is suggested that you respond to specific things from the other members online dating personals or their prior communication with you. Bring up a favorite movie or band they have listed in their profile. If their profile mentions that they enjoy traveling or they are an avid fan of a certain sports team – talk about it! This creates open dialogue and will help you get a sense of who the other person is. You can even tell a little bit about chemistry through the flow of conversation. So do not send rushed impersonal cookie-cutter messages. Make an actual attempt to know the other person.
3. Do Not Be Pushy About Meeting Offline
Everyone needs to take things at their own pace. People need to be absolutely comfortable when meeting an online acquaintance offline. It is suggested that you take baby steps and never get pushy with things. Move on from e-mails to instant messages and then from instant messages to telephone conversations. When the time is appropriate agree to meet one another in a public place.
4. Do Not Be Rude
Not everyone responding to your internet dating profile will be of interest to you, but that is no reason to respond to them rudely or in an ignorant manner. Sometimes it’s best to just ignore them if you can not reject their interest in a polite manner. Even if they say something inappropriate that you don’t necessarily like, think before responding. You never know the emotional and psychological make up of the person on the other end.