If your boyfriend is very active on Facebook, chances are you are going to see a lot of things that might make you uncomfortable, not to mention you may worry about what he sees on your page. Next thing you know, both of you are monitoring your account to make sure and not ruffle your partner’s feathers. Oh so much to worry about.
Let’s say an old girlfriend appears out of the blue. Your imagination starts going wild and you start seeing things that chances are, aren’t even there. Our imaginations are often our worst enemy. You ask him about it, he explains, but she is still there. What do you do? One thing you can’t do is control him.
Facebook is a way to keep in touch with friends. It’s a great thing, but it can destroy a relationship. If you start feeling like you have to monitor what goes on your wall because of how he may take it, you have a problem. It’s putting an unneeded strain where it shouldn’t.
I know a lot of women who are very insecure in their relationships because of Facebook. I look at it like this. I have a lot of guys as friends. I am not on Facebook trying to make dates, have sex or meet new guys to hook up with. If I am in a relationship I would hope that I am a good enough judge of character to pick someone of a like mind. So that being said, why should I care what he does on Facebook? I don’t.
If you find yourself stalking his page, asking him questions about it, you are not showing him trust. A man has to feel trust or he will start to hide even innocent things from you for fear of your reaction. It’s going to drive a wedge bigger than Facebook between you two. If you do choose to add your boyfriend as a friend on Facebook, first you might want to grasp the idea that it is a social networking site and view it as that and nothing more.
Yes, flirting goes on there. Yes people have met through Facebook and embarked on relationships. It’s really not the purpose of Facebook though. If you add your boyfriend on Facebook, chances are good you are just creating an avenue for shadows of doubt to walk down. If you are secure in your relationship, by all means, add your boyfriend, but if you aren’t, be prepared for drama ahead.
Men really value being trusted. Adding your boyfriend on Facebook can actually also enhance your relationship, that is if you trust him. If he can post to different women and you don’t make a huge deal out of it, he will feel safer to open up to you. He won’t fear your reaction. If you do add your boyfriend on Facebook, the way you interact with him there is a huge sign of how you will interact with him elsewhere in your relationship.