One of the advantages of using the Internet is how easy it is to connect with people from all parts of the globe. Many people are striking up meaningful relationships online. In some cases these online unions are being enjoyed by men and women who are already married to another. Although there’s an argument to be made for the fact that the interchange is largely electronically based, emotions are real in many of these online liaisons. If you suspect that your partner has found a new love online, there are some warning signs of an Internet affair that you need to be aware of.
The amount of time someone spends online is important. One of the most telling signs of an Internet affair is that the individual will suddenly seem to want to be online much more than usual. Unless they have a valid reason for spending so much time at their computer, such as a work related project or school, this should be sending up an alarm to the other spouse that something is amiss.
If the spouse suspected of having a relationship online adds password protection to their personal computer or laptop, this is another sign that they may indeed have found more than a friendship on the Internet. Trying to hide personal information is one of the major signs of an Internet affair. If your spouse is involved in an online liaison you can expect that they won’t feel comfortable giving you their passwords.
Many people don’t take the extra measure of trying to hide their online activity and if this is the case and you can access their computer you’ll find many signs of an Internet affair. One is that their browsing history may contain some important clues. For example, many people who do initiate an extramarital relationship online do so through one of the many online dating sites. If you are able to look around your spouse’s computer when they aren’t present, check their browsing history for any visits to these sites.
Some of the popular instant messaging and chat programs have features which keep a record of all conversations. If you do a search of the computer you may be able to locate these. Be prepared for some stunning revelations if your spouse or partner is indeed immersed in an online affair. You can also search their emails if you are privy to those. This can be a difficult decision to make, whether to delve that deeply into another’s business, but if your marriage is at stake, it’s something you need to carefully consider.
Many people don’t even think of the fact that their cell phone bill can be an indicator of their adulterous activity. If your husband or wife receives and pays their cell phone bill online you may be able to get a peek at it. The call activity may be one of the signs of an Internet affair. If you see an unfamiliar number being called by your spouse, take note of it along with when they were calling. Many affairs that begin online progress to telephone calls, and then ultimately in person meetings.
The last three signs of an Internet affair involve your spouse’s behavior. If they close their home office door when they are on the computer, and they didn’t in the past, this usually means they want privacy for a reason. Also, if they suddenly want a web cam, a red flag should go up. Finally if they shut off the computer or cover the screen with their hands when you walk into the room, don’t overlook that. People with nothing to hide don’t act that way. When your spouse is acting suspicious while they are on the computer, chances are that they are doing something they shouldn’t be doing. You have every right to find out what that is.