Have you managed to line up a first date with a new girl and are getting ready for it? Even though you may be nervous and a good share of your attention is centered on that big night, it is vital to think ahead. There is no guarantee that a second date will happen, but the process starts during the first one. So what can you do that will ensure that your first date with the girl you like won’t be the last?
Be your own self. Some like to boost their confidence by getting advice about relationships, which is really not that hard to find. Your friends will flood you with lots of advice and it is easy to get it on the internet, but that’s not always the right way to go. For example, certain ones may advise you to be cool and overconfident, funny and even a little bit cocky. It is true that this may make an impression on some girls, but not all. On top of that it isn’t wise to start a relationship based upon someone you’re not. You may actually get the second date, but then it may not be possible for you to keep up the act. If a girl is not happy with you as yourself, you really wouldn’t want a second date either.
Pay your date’s expenses. Paying for the date is one of the greatest problems that couples face. When it comes to the first date, you should pay, because it was you that did the asking. This is one of the main unwritten rules when it comes to first dates. It is not only considerate and polite, but it is also the main deed that will help you get a second date. If a girl has to unexpectedly reach for her wallet, then she is going to be less likely to accept an offer for a second date.
Talk about casual subjects and avoid being too personal. During the course of a date, it is good to talk about yourself, but it is also important to ask questions. When you do so, be careful because too many in-depth personal questions can have a negative effect on a girl. Ask easy and simple questions, yet things that will help you to get to know her. Ask her about where she goes to school or where she works, if she has any brothers and sisters and such. Don’t bring these things up all at once; simply work them into the conversation.
Be courteous. As stated before, some people recommend being cool, overconfident, funny, and even cocky. If this is your style it is just fine, because you want to be yourself as much as possible, but you also need to be polite. Feeling special on a date means a lot to a girl, and not getting the impression that she’s some kind of inconvenience. So hold the doors for her with a smile, make eye contact and really listen to what she has to say, and always say please and thank you.
Ask. When all is said and done, the easiest way to get set with a second date is to ask. Women can sometimes be very crafty. She may have enjoyed the first date, but that doesn’t mean she will jump right into a second one, especially if she has to do the asking. She is asking herself, “I really like him, but does he actually like me?” So don’t wait for a Godsend. If you enjoyed yourself, just ask.
Don’t press too hard for a second date. As stated before, ask her for a second date, but be very careful at doing it. Simply ask, “I had a great time, want to do it again?” And while you’re at it, be sure that your date has your phone number and tell her to give you a call. This takes the pressure completely off, so that an instant response isn’t required. If she’s interested, she will call. If not, she won’t. If she does call and makes the second date, then you know that the girl is really interested in you. She called you on her own free will and didn’t give in to any pressure.
Pressuring the lady into a second date is never good, but you can make it known that you are open for just about anything at any time. Giving her the freedom to choose the next date also makes a better impression. For example, you can phase it this way, “I chose the restaurant tonight. If you are interested in going out again, you can choose where we will go and what we will do. Call me if you’re interested.” If a woman is unsure if you are right for her, she will still most likely make the decision to go out on a second date, since it would be on her terms. At least she can have a good time, even if you aren’t her soul mate.