When a man says he’s busy all the time it can be a bit confusing to the woman he’s involved with. This is an all too common scenario in many relationships. The couple starts out completely enamored with each other but over time something changes. He may not pick up the phone to call you as often as he once did, he’ll take longer to call you back and he’ll be much busier than he was in the early days of the relationship. You can feel the shift in the dynamic of the relationship but it’s so subtle that it’s hard to put your finger on exactly what has changed. The fact of the matter is that when a man continually comes up with excuses for why he can’t spend time with you he’s losing interest fast.
Many men just aren’t good with confrontation so when their feelings for you shift, they’d rather let the relationship die a slow death than tell you that’s it over. When a man says he’s busy all the time and he just doesn’t make an effort to be there for you, he’s not emotionally invested in what you two share anymore. This comes as a completely shock to many women as they can’t understand what caused the shift. You may be surprised to learn that in the dating stage of a relationship men can be turned off by the smallest things. If you’ve done something that he has found unattractive or unappealing he may decide the relationship and you just aren’t worth it anymore.
Some examples of things that men find unappealing are pushing him for an exclusive relationship too soon, calling him non-stop just to say hi, or even being overly emotional around him. If it strikes him as unattractive, he may wash his hands of the relationship. For a man unwilling to make the effort to tell you it’s over, he’ll say things like he’s too busy to see you or he’ll give you unbelievable excuses for why he can’t get together.
There is a way to change things before it’s too late. Loads of dating advice suggests that when you feel ignored by your man the best thing to do is tell him. Although this may work with some men, many men will pull back even more if you try this. Your best move right now is to start treating him like a friend. Don’t pressure him into a long discussion regarding the future of the relationship. Instead, stop asking him to spend time with you and when you do call him, make it infrequent and keep the calls short. If he feels the pressure is off him, he’ll start to open up to you again.