Internet Backs Wife Who Told Husband He ‘Emasculates Himself’ in Argument About Lawn Tools

During a heated argument about lawn tools, one woman on Reddit claimed she told her that he “emasculates himself.” Though the comment upset her husband, many Redditors have come to her defense.

She shared the details of the argument in Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole” forum on Monday under the username u/Bench_Virtual. The post has received more than 12,000 votes.

To provide context for the argument, the wife explained that she was raised by a single father who taught her not only how to cook and clean, but also how to be her own “handyman.” Her husband, on the other hand, “was raised to expect everything done for him and never really learn any self-sustaining skills,” she said.

She added that he was also raised to believe that the man “is always right.”

“Fast forward to last week, I needed to buy a new line trimmer as my old faithful finally gave up on life. I was busy with the kids and my husband said he would go pick it up for me,” the wife said.

“I told him which one I wanted and what brand all my power tools are. He said he understood but when he came back, he had purchased one from a different brand,” she continued.

The wife was “annoyed” but decided to move on. That is until she noticed that her husband hadn’t bought the proper battery to pack for the new line trimmer.

Her husband told her to use the batteries from the previous line trimmer, but she explained that it didn’t work that way. So her husband took her back to the hardware store.

“When we got there he walked straight up to the tool shack and ask the tool specialist to explain to me how my Ryobi [batteries] would work perfectly fine in my new Makita line trimmer,” she said.

But the specialist took the wife’s side. Embarrassed, the husband exchanged the line trimmer he bought with the one his wife initially wanted. Once they returned home, an argument ensued.

“He was yelling at me about how I embarrassed him, how I’m constantly emasculating him and how I should be a good wife and just stick to doing things appropriate for females,” she claimed.

In response, she said: “the only person that’s emasculating you is yourself. It’s not my fault you never learned to be what you call a man.”

Since the argument, the woman’s husband has only spoken to her through their kids.

Newsweek has reached out to u/Bench_Virtual for comment.

It is worth noting that in 2012, major publications noticed a rise in the number of women using power tools.

According to The Washington Post, this increase was largely due to the fact that there were “twice as many single female home buyers as there [were] single male home buyers” in 2011.

“These women don’t have to rely on men to financially support them — but somebody still needs to rewire that light switch and unclog that drain. That somebody is them,” the paper reported.

In 2020, “19 percent of first-time home buyers and 17 percent of repeat home buyers were single women, while 11 percent of first-time home buyers and 9 percent of repeat buyers were single men,” said the National Association of Realtors.

“Fixing things around the house was the last bastion of manliness,” author Hanna Rosin told The Washington Post in 2012.

“But the truth is, nothing belongs to anybody anymore,” She continued. “If men can quilt and take over the kitchen, then women can pick up a wrench and fix a leaky pipe.”

Many Redditors were aligned with Rosin’s way of thinking and expressed that the wife wasn’t wrong to defend herself against her husband.

“NTA [not the a**hole], but honestly, if he hasn’t talked to you in a week, this isn’t just about the trimmer. My guess is that these silly gender norms he has stuck in his head has [sic] been bothering him for a while,” said u/Candid-Equivalent-82.

“NTA since he can’t be ‘the MAN of the house’ you can’t be expected to play the wifey role,” added u/chubby-wench.

Redditor u/Zestyclose_Meeting_8 commented: “NTA. He’s a chauvinist and his behavior is unacceptable. He thinks he’s right simply because he’s the man and he thinks you should lie to him to let him keep believing the myth that’s he right because he’s the man. He embarrassed himself. Nothing you said was untrue and I don’t think your TA [the a**hole] for snapping when he was yelling at you.”

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During a heated argument about lawn tools, one woman on Reddit claimed she told her that he “emasculates himself.”
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