A man who snapped at his wife after getting home from work leaves the internet torn in a new viral social media post.
Published to Reddit’s “AmITheA**hole” forum, a man under the username
u/surgeoncolonel, took his story to let the “AITA” followers determine if he was in the wrong. The post has 8,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The Redditor is an ER nurse while his wife stays at home with their 9-month-old child.
“I love my job and right now my wife doesn’t have a job and is focusing on motherhood. I am in full support of this and know that what she is doing is very difficult and taxing, but I think my job is sometimes a little more than that,” he wrote.
In 2020, there were approximately 4.2 million RNs employed in the United States, per the University of St. Augustine for Health Sciences.
He explains that sometimes, he has bad days at work, he states that he “sees the worst things a person could possibly see.” It typically didn’t bother him but since he now has a child, it has become difficult especially if it’s a woman or a young girl. He states that he rarely tells his wife about the things he witnesses at work and doesn’t let what he sees affect his work.
One day, they had a little girl in the emergency room after getting hit by a car while she was on her bike. After doing everything they could to save her, she didn’t make it.
Typically when he gets home, he takes the baby from his wife so she can take a break.
“I was just too distracted today. I wanted to help my wife but I just needed some time. I don’t know why, but I couldn’t handle my wife’s requests for help. When I asked her for a minute, she told me that she’s been on her feet all day and needed a break. We had a small argument as I was trying to avoid telling her what I saw, and eventually I just snapped,” he said.
“I raised my voice and told her that, ‘Can I just get 5 f**king minutes to myself before you jump on me.’ She of course was mad and it started a much bigger argument as she now is convinced I don’t value what she does,” he concluded.
Reddit users were divided.
“[No A**holes Here] – but you two need to communicate better; tell her when you need comfort. When you have a really bad day, try texting her when you’re leaving and let her know that a little girl died today and you had a horrible day, that when you get home you just need her to hug you for a few minutes. Ask her for comfort before you get there, and I think that will make a big difference,” u/DisneyBuckeye received more than 20,000 upvotes for their comment.
U/ProfPlumDidIt said, “[Not the A**hole] because you said it nicely first and only snapped after she got pushy. I’d sit down with her and tell her that, going forward, you need 15 minutes or so to shower and shake off the day.”
“[Not the A**hole]. You are an ER nurse. You have also been on you’re feet all day. Along with the mental trauma. And constant stress that gives you guys a horrendous suicide rate. A bit beyond raising a baby,” u/Dagordae wrote.
“[Everyone Sucks Here] You don’t have a relationship if you can’t tell your wife that you had a rough case that’s taken a toll and need a break. When I have a bad day at work I wait in my car for a few minutes before I get my kid from daycare. You guys need to communicate better,” u/WoozyRadish exclaimed.
Newsweek reached out to u/surgeoncolonel for comment.