The internet backed a woman for snapping at her mother-in-law after she asked to be in the delivery room when the woman gives birth to her child.
In a popular post submitted to Reddit’s infamous forum, “AmITheA**hole,” u/ChelseaRoberts345 turned to the community to get feedback on her situation. The submission has 19,000 upvotes and 5,000 comments filled with users defending her actions.
UVAHealth says that only 2 people can be with a woman who is giving birth because of the ongoing Coronavirus pandemic, which could’ve been a reason for the Redditor’s post — except it wasn’t.
The original poster (OP) and her husband are expecting a son and the due date is quickly approaching, which can make things very hectic and overwhelming. Her husband’s mother-in-law invited them to dinner to speak with them.
The “important request” was that she wanted to be in the delivery room with them when the baby was born. U/ChelseaRoberts345 already decided that her mother and husband would be in the room. Saddened by the OP’s rejection, she kept quiet. A while later, she brought it up again claiming that she was also a grandmother and wanted to see “her grandbaby’s first moments.” Her husband agreed with his mother.
“I just stared at her and said ‘it’s alright, you can have the opportunity to be in the delivery room when it’s your son who’s giving birth.’ Everyone stopped eating and my mother in law left the table in an instance,” she wrote. “My husband had me got up although I wasn’t finish with dinner but he said we should leave.”
Her husband wasn’t pleased, causing an argument to erupt.
“He lost it on me asking ‘what brain cell’ made me think it was a good idea to tell his mom that. I told him his mom kept pushing after I’d already given her an answer. still he said this was the most f***ed up s**t he heard me say,” she admitted.
She was upset she hurt her mother-in-law’s feelings and didn’t mean to cause any problems. Her husband wished she just agreed and admitted that if his mother isn’t in the delivery room then neither will he. She is uncertain if he was serious or it was his anger talking.
The AITA users were quick to come to the defense of the Redditor.
“NTA. Actually, what you said makes sense seen as we’re talking about your body here. The reality is that your MIL just did you a favor here because your husband siding with her is showing issues in your marriage and the difficulties you’re going to face when it comes to decisions about your pregnancy or your child,” u/Primary-Criticism929 wrote, receiving the top comment with 35,700 upvotes.
They continued: “I would tell him that if he doesn’t come into the delivery room when I give birth and if he’s not supportive of my decision concerning my body, our marriage will be over and it shouldn’t bother coming to the hospital at all because he will have to wait until I go back to my parents to meet our son. Go see a lawyer to prepare for a divorce, just in case, and try to get an appointment with a therapist to help you through all of it.”
U/ElinsTwo agreed adding, “If your husband doesn’t change his tune, I’d consider appointing your mom as your medical power of attorney/decision maker. The last thing you need is to have a medical emergency while giving birth and having them hunt down your AH husband as the legal next of kin rather than asking your mom (who has your back) what would be in your best interest.”
“NTA. Your husband is a massive AH. So is his mom in this situation. YOU are the one who will be naked,” u/jammy913 said in part. “YOU are the one going through a major medical situation which carries a risk of death. YOU are the one who needs to have as little stress as possible. YOU HAVE THE FINAL SAY. You are correct. You said no. She should have accepted that. This isn’t about her ‘grandbaby’s first moments’ being the most important thing.”