One internet thread caught the attention of many after a woman explained how her partner caused her to pee in one of her cats’ litter boxes.
Titled, “AITA for peeing in the cat tray?,” the viral Reddit post initially appeared on the widely-popular r/AmITheA**hole subreddit, and has received over 11,000 votes and 1,700 comments. Posted by Redditor u/throwcatpee, the thread’s author admitted that she used a throwaway Reddit account to write the original post and acknowledged that “this is so embarrassing.”
Explaining that she is diabetic and on a series of medications, one of which causes her to “pee a lot,” u/throwcatpee said that her partner has irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), which sometimes causes him to occupy the bathroom for 40 minutes or longer. She added that neither of their conditions had caused any issues in the past, but said that a couple of days ago, the couple reached an impasse.
u/throwcatpee wrote that her partner recently suffered from an intense IBS episode and had been in the bathroom for 40 minutes when she knocked on the door and informed him that she had to pee. 20 minutes later, the Redditor said that she knocked again, and her partner informed her that he could not leave the bathroom. After an additional 15 minutes, u/throwcatpee said her bladder began to hurt, and that she was left with one option.
“My bladder hurts and I’m bursting and I figured the cats would forgive me,” she wrote. “I pop a squat over the litter tray in the corridor and have a tinkle.”
“I then bag up the litter tray and completely refresh it,” she added.
Frequent urination is closely associated with diabetes and medications that treat it. Due to excess glucose in the blood, diabetics’ kidneys are forced to work overtime to filter and absorb the excess glucose.
According to the Mayo Clinic, when diabetics’ kidneys can’t keep up, the excess glucose is excreted into the urine, causing polyuria and potential bladder problems.
Polyuria is a condition that causes the body to urinate more than usual and to pass excessive or abnormally large amounts of urine. Diabetes.co.uk reports that the condition is one of main symptoms of both Type 1 and Type 2 diabetes, and that if left untreated, can affect kidney function.
While the thread’s author did not specify which diabetes medications she uses, u/throwcatpee acknowledged that one of her prescriptions causes frequent urination, and that after waiting over an hour to use the bathroom, she was down to her last resort. However, despite her explanation that she was experiencing bladder pain, u/throwcatpee said her partner was disgusted by her actions.
“He comes out … and says the bathroom’s free and I tell him it’s fine,” she wrote in the viral post. “He gives me a funny look and I tell him what I did. He looks at me absolutely disgusted and says that is revolting.”
“I tried to tell him a number of times I really needed to go and he said I should learn to hold it better,” she added.
Other Redditors were far more understanding of the situation, and many criticized u/throwcatpee’s partner for his reaction to the embarrassing ordeal.
In the post’s top comment, that has received 27.7K votes, Redditor u/Wren1101 showed their support for u/throwcatpee, and accused their partner of maintaining standards he can’t hold himself.
“That’s rich, coming from a person with IBS, telling you that ‘you should learn to hold it better,'” they wrote. “That’s absolutely ridiculous for him to expect of you when he knows he wouldn’t be able to do the same. He has double standards. [Not the a**hole].”
Echoing the same sentiments, u/GizmaAzara posed a hypothetical, and said u/throwcatpee did what they had to in a tough situation.
“He has IBS. If the situation were reversed he would want sympathy and I doubt he would be able to hold it for as long as you had,” they commented.
“So you did what you had to do in the best case scenario,” they added.
Many more of the thread’s commenters were supportive of the original poster, and as the majority pointed out, u/throwcatpee’s partner showed a glaring lack of care for her condition and restroom needs.
“NTA,” Redditor u/Kvxyo wrote in a comment. “I find it more gross that he’s aware of your situation and showed no empathy to it.”