Internet Backs Person for Not Getting Girlfriend a Gift for Her Birthday

The internet has backed a user for not getting their girlfriend a gift for her birthday since she doesn’t get them anything on theirs.

Taken to Reddit’s “AmITheA**hole” forum, a user under the anonymous name u/throwgift1, asked the “AITA” community if they were in the wrong for not getting her a gift. The viral post has 9,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.

“My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. Gifts have been sorta a sore spot, at least for me,” they begin.

When their birthday came around the first year they were together, she decided to bake them “cake things.” However, she took half of them home to her family. He thought it was odd and thought of it as “here’s your present but I’m taking part of it back.”

For her birthday, they got her plenty of gifts including balloons and flowers. During the holidays, they also got her some gifts as well but the original poster (OP) stated that they got nothing in return.

Do you believe that you could be in a relationship with a “selfish” person? Some signs you should look out for are when they expect you to “clean their mess,” how they always come first, and not showing supportiveness or appreciation, per momjunction.com.

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In a viral post published to Reddit’s “AmITheA**hole” forum, a user wants to know if they’re in the wrong for not getting their girlfriend a gift for her birthday.
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During the recent holiday, she insisted that she wanted seat covers for her car, so they got them for her but wanted to see if she got anything for them this time. Turns out, she didn’t. They decided to give the gift to her, but the OP stated that it was “the last straw” and will not get her anything in the future.

“So in almost 3 years of birthday’s and Christmases, I got half a gift. I’ve tried talking to her about it but she just claims ‘she forgot ‘ or ‘has so many other people to shop for for Christmas’ etc,” they wrote.

When her birthday came up, she hinted to the OP what she wanted. However, they didn’t buy it for her. They didn’t see a point because she “can’t be bothered” with getting them anything.

They went out to celebrate and she kept saying that she was excited to open her gift. She insisted that she wanted to go over to the OP’s house to get the gift.

They described their conversation once she began to look for her gift. The OP reiterated to her that they did not get her a gift. At first, she thought they were only kidding.

They wrote: “She said ‘then why did I come over?’ I said ‘I don’t know you wanted to.’ She said ‘you really didn’t even get me a card?’ I said ‘no, I just figured we’re not doing gifts anymore, I mean you don’t give them so.'”

“She gave her usual excuses ‘you’re hard to shop for’ (I’m not I tell her what I’d like and some stuff is only 5-10 bucks) ‘well I forget’ and a few other things. Then she said ‘it’s shouldn’t be about recieving it’s about giving, but thanks for being a passive aggressive a**hole and ruining my birthday,'” they concluded.

In a comment made to Newsweek, the OP explained that they might end the relationship soon.

“It’s not worth the headache anymore,” u/throwgift1 said.

Redditors were quick to defend the OP in the comments.

“It would be one thing if she didn’t like doing gifts. If she didn’t even want to receive them, I’d get it. That’s a preference. But to leave you out while she shops for others, and blame you (You’re hard to shop for) when she forgets, and then DEMANDS her gift when it’s her turn makes it seem like she’s using you. Or at the very least, doesn’t love you enough to think of you, even on special occasions,” u/stunted_jest received top comment of 18,000 upvotes.

“NTA-I’m sorry you’re dating such an entitled taker,” wrote u/GothPenguin.

U/yourlittlebirdie said, “NTA. She is selfish and inconsiderate and honestly, it’s hard for me to understand why you’d want to be with someone like this.”

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