The internet has backed a woman who wants her husband’s friend out of their house due to his inappropriate behavior.
Submitted to Reddit’s “AmITheA**hole” forum, u/ThroawayMerkleRain shared her story on her husband’s childhood friend and how she’s growing impatient on him living there. The viral post has 10,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The Redditor begins explaining her predicament by telling the readers that her husband’s friend, “N,” was close to homelessness due to job problems, or not wanting to find a job at all. At first, the original poster (OP) felt pity for N, and opened their guest bedroom to him.
There are approximately 553,742 people experiencing homelessness in the United States as of January 2017, according to the National Alliance to End Homelessness.
“‘N’ seemed okay at first but slowly he started taking advantage of our kindness,” the OP wrote, “‘N’ is a heavy drinker and ever since he has been staying with us he has gotten my husband into drinking also, not only drinking once he gets drunk he is extremely crude and mocks me and not even jokingly.”
She continued: “He comments on my weight or tries to constantly set up my husband with other women in front of me as a ‘joke’. After eating the food I make he still gossips to my husband about me and they sit together and laugh, I don’t find any of it funny. The more I try to let it go the worse he gets with his remarks and actions.”
When she returned home from her part-time job, she found out N had invited his friends over and completely trashed the living room. They ate her food and even damaged property including a TV.
When bringing the topic up with her husband, he would get mad at her and wants to help a friend out due to his “difficult situation.” She explains that N orders her around and she is not having it. When confronting N about her worries, he called her “selfish” and “a b***h.” He would only leave if her husband told him to.
The OP is worried will not be leaving any time soon as he doesn’t look for a job since he drinks, sleeps all day or is with his friends.
“I am losing my mind, sleep and everything over this. There is no privacy, the house is always dirty and because of this my husband and I have conflicts all the time. I really need him out,” she exclaimed.
The “AITA” commentariat defended the original poster.
“NTA, you’re being taken advantage of and it sounds like your husband and N need to be long term single roommates,” u/Old_Adhesive_556 received the top comment with over 10,000 upvotes.
U/Aythatsmessedup said, “NTA id tell your husband if he has an issue he can go outside with him. He’s making this an unsafe environment and mentally abusing you.”
“NTA the cops will tell you to go through the eviction process. File the paperwork ASAP. Video Record on your phone when you hand him the 30 day notice to vacate,” u/murphy2345678 explained, “If husband doesn’t like it tell him he can go too. They are BOTH treating you like s***. Don’t put up with it anymore.”
“Blimey this is one of those I really want to be fake… Of course you’re NTA. This guy sounds disgusting and tbh if your husband is ok with all this he doesn’t sound much better,” u/SorellaNux wrote.