A woman, who played the piano while her roommate was on a call with her boyfriend, is gaining widespread support after waiting several hours to play in her own home to accommodate her roommate.
The now-viral Reddit post with 10,100 upvotes was shared to the subreddit “Am I The A**hole” on February 21 by u/Firm_Photograph_3100. The post is titled, “AITA for playing piano while my roommate was having a call?”
The original poster (OP) has a roommate named Lilly. The Redditor’s piano exam was in a few days, so she was practicing as much as she could. Recently, the poster’s roommate spoke with her in advance about not playing the piano during her phone call with her boyfriend.
According to the Pew Research Center, in 2017 31.9 percent of adults in the country, or 79 million people, lived in a shared household, which is a household with one “extra adult” or more who is not the head of household, the spouse or partner of the head, or an 18- to 24-year-old student.
Lilly told the OP the call would be for an hour, and the Redditor agreed not to play during that time. But an hour went by, and she was still on the phone. Then two hours passed, then almost three.
The OP texted Lilly asking her if she “could practice quietly,” but she responded with a “No.” The Redditor continued: “I thought I’d wait a while more, but soon after 3.5 hours passed, I was exasperated. I went to my room, shut the door [so it won’t be loud], and practiced. I immediately got an angry text from Lilly. Despite knowing very well that I was disrupting her call, I ignored her text and continued to play the piano.”
But that wasn’t the end of things. The OP revealed Lilly ended the call because of her, saying she was “furious,” and she called the OP an “attention-wh**e” wanting to “flaunt” her talents to Lilly’s boyfriend.
“She even said that I liked her boyfriend, which is completely not true,” the Redditor said.
Although the OP was mad at her roommate, she saw her crying on the couch. “I can’t help but think I provoked her insecurities [sometimes, she tells me that she has no talent], and I feel really bad,” the OP said. “However, one part of me thinks that I can play piano in my house whenever I want.”
Over 900 comments came rolling in for the OP, and people overwhelmingly supported her plight with her roommate. One comment received over 16,000 upvotes on its own, and the poster said the OP isn’t the “a**hole” in the situation.
“There was an agreed-upon duration of the call, to which you were respectful of, she went over,” the Redditor said. “You’re entitled to live in your home too.”
Another mentioned the OP’s agreed time restraint, as Lilly went over that one-hour timeframe for the call. “Second, unless you are all rocking the old school phones with a cord or a cordless phone [i.e. non-cell phone], then she can go for a three-hour walk or go to her car to finish the conversation,” they added.
Some people called out Lilly’s behavior in the situation, not the OP’s. “NTA, but Lilly was,” a Redditor claimed. “She needs to be respectful of your time like you were respectful of hers. She doesn’t sound like a very good roommate. I would have practiced after the one-hour mark was done, call be damned. You have to make a good grade on your exam, her boo can wait.”
Jealousy was also brought up in regard to the roommate. One user thought, “from the comments she made in anger, it seems like she showed her true feelings for you—jealousy. She also disrespected your need to practice. I don’t think she’s a true friend.”
While one Redditor thought Lilly could have gone somewhere else during the call. They also added that “3.5 hours is ludicrous and rude when you had already agreed and adhered to the one hour.”
People didn’t hold back about their thoughts on the matter when it came to Lilly’s actions. “NTA,” a Redditor added. “Also get another roommate. She is jealous of you. Her boyfriend must have complimented your piano skills sometime or said something.”
Newsweek reached out to u/Firm_Photograph_3100 for comment.