Why Internet Dating
Why has internet dating become so popular in last few years?
It could be argued that with the increasing single population through separation, divorce and even death of a partner is the reason. More mature people are out there looking for dating opportunities. These same people are probably not that comfortable anymore with the mating rituals carried out in pubs, bars and clubs, even if those suitable venues exist.
However, it seems that the younger generation are also using this medium. This could be due to the popularity of social networks such as Facebook and My Space. The young folk of today (doesn’t that make you feel old) were brought up with mobile phones, texting, emailing and instant messenger. They do not see the practices as new fangled but instead as part of the fabric of life.
There are other elements of course. Security is one, although that is a contradiction in terms where the internet is concerned. This is more about the security of one’s ego and sensibilities. The ability to ‘wink’ or ‘kiss’ at someone without that being threatening and then if not successful, the rejection is short lived and not overwhelming. I can remember as a young man waiting all night in a disco to get the courage up to go over and speak to an attractive woman. Rehearsing what I would say a thousand times over in my head. Practising something to say if I was rebuffed and my exit strategy for walking away as if I didn’t care anyway.
And then the moment arrived, 5 minutes before the end of the event. But hang on, who is this other guy talking to her now. Damn!! Waited too long, hesitated when I should have acted. Or finally getting over there and blubbering out my well rehearsed but inept words. The thought of it all gives me butterflies even now, all these years later.
So what have we lost? Are we becoming a world of cyber daters who become very good at our keyboard skills but still lack the panache and style when finally meeting in person? Maybe, maybe not.
We may not like progress but at the end of the day, that is exactly what it is, progress.