Since the advent of the internet, dirty talking an finding dirty things to say has taken on a whole new dimension. Dirty typing, or otherwise known as cybersex, has become a mainstay for both long-distance lovers and those who simply want to get anonymous sex without all the hassle or worry about STDs. Phone sex was once the big way to get off without getting hurt, but now cybersex is the wave of the future.
Do the same rules apply to dirty typing as they do to dirty talking? Communication is key, and when you’re in the midst of dirty talk, you should always be attuned to your partner. What do they want? What makes them uncomfortable? What drives them wild?
Unfortunately, you can’t see the reaction of the person on the other side of the screen, so you simply have to trust that what you are saying isn’t going too far out of their comfort zone. At the same time, however, there are certain steps you can take to make sure your cyber-partner isn’t feeling turned off by your ideas and fantasies.
The first rule is to take it slow. You never know what your partner will like to hear, so start out slow and easy. Simply asking them what kind of sex they are in the mood for will give you a great deal of insight into how to proceed. If your partner wants it “fast and hard” then you know you can go a little farther. If it is someone who is new to the cybersex game, your dirty talk needs to be a little on the safe side. Don’t use graphic terms until you know your partner is ready for it.
The second rule is to check in. Don’t be afraid to ask if you have gone too far. Most people will appreciate the chance to tell you how you’re doing! Maybe you can’t hear their words or see their reaction on their face, but you can ask them what they think, and trust that they will tell you the truth. If you get the go-ahead, great! If you are told to slow down, do as you’ve been requested to do.
The third rule is to have an open mind! When you start talking dirty online, you might be surprised at the things you see come across your screen. Many people turn to the internet for fantasies they can’t get at home, and the anonymity of cybersex makes even the most inhibited person run a bit wild. Have an open mind and don’t be shocked by what you see, because you will probably see it all by the time you’ve explored the world of dirty typing!
Dirty typing is the new dirty talking, but the same rules apply. Always check in with your partner, do your best to make them comfortable, and most importantly, enjoy yourself!