A new social media post leaves the internet torn as a woman says she didn’t leave her room during a vacation with family when her fiancé threw her in a pool against her wishes.
Published to Reddit’s infamous “AmITheA**hole” forum, u/amelia244 shared her story to the community to see if she was in the wrong. The viral post currently has 6,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The Redditor explained that she is scared of large bodies of water due to almost drowning when she was a child. She said not many people know about her phobia.
Aquaphobia is the fear of water, such as pools, lakes or even a bathtub, via Healthline. Thalassophobia is a fear of deep bodies of water such as the ocean, via VeryWellMind. Phobias can cause dizziness, lightheadedness, nausea, feeling overwhelmed and high anxiety.
Vacationing with her fiancé’s family, they did many activities that included being in or around water. To avoid those certain activities, she would enjoy a book or hang out with her future mother-in-law since she didn’t join in either.
To her surprise, the Redditor’s fiancé threw her in the pool. She ended up fainting and woke up very disoriented. The doctor that took care of her told her fiancé that she was in shock and needed time before she got back to normal.
She wrote that she stayed in her room for most of the vacation, despite feeling better. Her fiancé even tried to get her to eat with the family but she refused. He has apologized many times as he felt bad because of what happened.
“Eventually, his cousin’s wife came to see me and said I should come down and spend time with everyone since I was making my fiancé feel like crap and he was already beating himself up enough without me making it worse by hiding in the room all day,” she wrote.
Her fiancé’s cousin’s wife said that the Reddit user was “ruining everyone’s vacations.” She also admitted that she did not tell her fiancé about her extreme fear of the water.
Redditors were quick to comment,
“If he didn’t even know about this trauma, you guys ain’t ready to be married imo. For how long have you known each other? Not long,” u/TinyTurtle88 received the top comment with 12,000 upvotes.
They continued: “If he had known and done that, I would have pulled out the divorce card, it’s such a serious matter. It’s seriously messed up to play with someone’s trauma. But now, he didn’t know… So not his fault for not knowing. Not your fault for suffering an unresolved trauma/phobia and its associated symptoms (loss of consciousness, fatigue, social withdrawal, etc.). [No a**holes here].”
“Soft [Everyone sucks here]. When you have a phobia, communication is key to preventing a triggering of it. You should have told him about it and the reason why long before you went on a vacation with lots of swimming,” u/ShinaSchatten explained.
They added: “You were an [a**hole] for failing to communicate this but not for your response to being dropped in the pool. He was an [a**hole] for dumping you in the pool even without knowing about your phobia, but now that he knows it will hopefully not happen again.”
“[Everyone sucks here]. Tossing people in a pool is a**hole behaviour regardless of whether they have water-related trauma,” u/RB1327 exclaimed, “But you are engaged, and have never told your fiance you had a near-drowning childhood incident that has left you with a significant phobia like this? Wtf.”
Newsweek reached out to u/amelia244 for comment.